There is no instant gratification in life.
This is a hard one for us modern folk who have really come to expect everything instantly. We have answers at our fingertips, fast food/drinks, you name it and we want in NOW. Especially if the path to get there is difficult, sad, ugly, or challenging. We want to skip that part and be in the new way of being. But this reminds me of that story about the butterfly, do you know it? A butterfly goes through tremendous struggle to emerge from its cocoon. If someone comes along and helps it out, the butterfly dies. If it’s process is cut short and it doesn’t build up the necessary strength from the struggle. It needs to go through that uncomfortable difficult process to thrive in its new way of being.
Through my physical practice of yoga asana it is very clear that to attain anything difficult there is a lot of work involved in the process. I would love to hear of a person who one day decides to do a handstand and can balance steadily on the first try. This is also true for our life goals. We may decide we want something for our lives or career and we almost expect that because we have decided that we want it we should have it now. We are missing the middle piece of the process from here to there. This is the lesson I am learning and I am working on cultivating my patience and enjoyment more of the process of growth than whatever the end result maybe. And the exciting part about this is, I have an end goal in mind but because I am focusing on the process and not on what is has to look like in the end I don’t really know what life will bring me. I kind of love that.
“A good traveler has no fixed plans and is not intent on arriving” Lao Tzu
This lesson actually takes a lot of pressure off. There is less a feeling of doing, striving, trying, working, and more a feeling of being, unfolding, discovering. There is a new curiosity for me as I keep myself open to all of life’s possibilities.